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Have ever felt you must be failing at moving on from your past? You’ve tried so many ways to let go of past traumas, negative experiences and sabotaging beliefs. Yet not much has really shifted. Please know you are not alone in this. You do NOT lack willpower, resilience, a growth mindset or strength. I…

UK Schools are chronically underfunded which is a huge pressure for school leaders. From their budgets, come salaries, water, lighting, heating, maintenance and much more, additional services for pupils, books, computers, and who knows what else.  “The School Cuts coalition of six unions, which spearheaded a national campaign for more funding in schools, has conducted…

  As a therapist, counsellor, teacher, support worker, early years practitioner or however you are working with children, young people or adults its often about having conversations. Sometimes you might be doing one to one support work with them. Other times it might be a quick word following an incident or because they need your…

Should anyone still be calling children naughty?  If you aren’t a fan of naughty, or sending children to the step, chair or thinking cloud of shame, there’s some good news…Unless you are Piers Morgan, who on hearing about the move in early years away from the use of naughty, tweeted: ‘So now we can’t even…

“Of course Jane I know you don’t like diagnoses for children.” Where do you sit when it comes to diagnosing children based on their behaviour? During a recent discussion, not for the first time, the above comment was levelled at me. I can’t deny it’s true BUT I can qualify it, and I did. So…

Why do other people’s opinions plague us? Be honest… How much of your daily thinking is taken up endlessly analysing and worrying about what other people think about, what you: Say Do Don’t say Don’t do Look like Sound like Know Don’t know Or even worse… What your child/ren: Behaves like Refuses to do Does…

Diets don’t work! Yet like lemmings off a cliff every year, especially in January and around April/May, we jump off the cliff right back onto the diet merry-go round wreck again. Believing this one WILL WORK. This time we will get to the size, weight, fitness and even shape we can feel happy at. (Although…

You are it! You really matter during the build up to exam time and when they actually happen! However your youngsters might react to you, they truly need you to have their backs 100% of time by feeling safe, solid and full of empathy. If you are worried about it all WATCH THIS 2 minute…

The blame loop Having someone or something external to blame when things don’t go our way, or WE make a mistake, can easily become a habit. In childhood, blaming others can be a means of survival, especially if getting caught or owning up is likely to incur the wrath of the adults around us. As…